How can I co-parent well during back-to-school time?

Co-parenting positively after a divorce is possible but is hardly easy. Many a Texas parent who has had to find ways to cooperate with a former spouse can attest to this. When schedules and routines are disrupted such as during holiday times the challenges with co-parenting can increase. Getting kids ready to transition from the lazy days of summer to the routine-based days of school is one such time. Just how can divorced parents manage this well for themselves and for their kids?

Communication is king

Good communication between parents is at the heart of any positive co-parenting arrangement. How this is facilitated can vary from family to family. Some people might find weekly scheduled meetings or phone calls between parents helpful. This may provide a set time to debrief on schedules, financial matters or other issues facing their joint children.

Other people might prefer to leverage technology to help them communicate. Many websites or apps provide tools that allow parents to set up shared calendars, financial trackers and more. Messages may even be sent and received via some systems so that all documentation and information is kept in one central place. Calendars may include hand-off times and locations, school holidays or events, sports practices or games, music lessons and more.

Make a financial plan

Even for very young children, buying school supplies is an additional expense that can cost more than some parents realize. Parents should work together to have a plan on how these costs are handled, whether they are shared jointly or whether one person buys some items and the other parent buys different items. Some families may find it helpful to have duplicates of some things so that kids don't have to transport everything between the two homes.

Keep teachers in the loop

Making sure teachers know all of the players in kids' lives is important. At the first meeting, parents should let teachers know the parents, any step-parents, grandparents or others who may pick kids up, attend events or who are otherwise actively involved in kids' lives.

Be involved together

Both parents should make a point of attending school or extracurricular events. This sends an important message to kids that they are important enough for both of their parents to be involved in their lives. If one parent lives far away and cannot attend everything, people could consider taking and sharing video footage or including the remote parent in conferences via phone calls.

Getting advice from professionals

It is always beneficial for Texas parents to get input from impartial third parties when it comes to keeping calm and working with a former spouse. An experienced family law attorney can be a great resource for parents before, during and after a divorce.